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| | Home | Coaching | Products | Retreats | Programs | Newsletters | | Resources | FAQ | Testimonials | About Helen | Contact Helen | Copyright © 2005 - 2008 Better Than Ever Coaching. All rights reserved. Address: P.O. Box 391, Brewster, MA 02631 Telephone: (508) 896-5779 Click here to Contact Helen |
Newsletters - May 2007
| Better Than Ever Coaching |
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What Could Be Better?
Written by:
Helen F. Kosinski, ACC, MBA - Professional Coach
May 2007: Volume 2, Issue 5 / ISSN # 1935-4827
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This Month: Conquering Bothersome Thoughts
- Feature Article
- What's Next for You?
- Resources
*****************************************************
Hi,
Can you believe that Memorial Day weekend is right around the
corner? I hope you have a great long weekend filled with laughter,
friends and, of course, a great cookout!
It’s hard to believe that it we’re almost at the middle of 2007…Wow! I
hope it’s been a fantastic year for you! And, you’ve been able to make
significant progress on all those "projects" that you have. Last
month, I talked about the FUN process to help get you started on those
difficult to start projects. This month, you’ll learn about some tools to
help diminish that "little voice in your head" that can sometimes really
be a roadblock to progress. I hope you find my suggestions helpful!
Have a Better Than Ever month!
All my best,
Helen
*************************************************************
Feature Article: Conquering Bothersome Thoughts
*************************************************************
Has this ever happened to you? You’re getting started on
something…maybe it’s writing a report, or creating your family’s
budget, or it’s creating a plan for your new project… and you get stuck!
You just can’t seem to make any progress at all! When this happens
have you noticed what that "little voice" in your head is telling you?
Maybe it’s saying things like:
I suspect that you have experienced these types of bothersome
thoughts and probably worse…especially at 2am in the morning.
These types of thoughts can really put the brakes on progress. What
can you do to get these bothersome thoughts out of your head so that
you can finally move forward on that next exciting thing? Here are a
few suggestions…
1. What’s worked?
Think about a time in your past that you had a similar situation…what
did you do to move forward? This may sound simple, but it can be very
helpful to recall what you did in the past to conquer these bothersome
thoughts. The main reason this is so helpful is that you have already
been successful using a particular method and if history repeats itself,
you’ll likely be successful this time around, too!
As you think about your previous successful experience, it’s beneficial
to use as many of your senses as you can. To facilitate this, here are
three questions that might help start the ball rolling:
2. Box them up.
Find a small box with a lid. Now, take a piece of paper and write down
one of your bothersome thoughts. Then fold the paper and put it in the
box. As you put the paper in the box, imagine that your bothersome
thought is being delegated to someone else and it is no longer your
responsibility. Continue to put each of your bothersome thoughts down
on paper, put them into the box and delegate the concern to someone
else.
You can also create an electronic ‘box’, instead of a physical box. Just
create a directory on your PC called ‘Box’. Then create a document and
type in one of the thoughts that has been holding you back. Save that
document and put it into the ‘Box’ directory…again, as you put this
document into the directory imagine that you’re delegating your
bothersome thought to someone else and it is no longer your
responsibility. Repeat this process for all of your bothersome
thoughts.
At a later date, you can go back and read through the pieces of paper or
documents, if you’d like. Often people that do this find that all of their
concerns were indeed taken care of for them! Or, you can just remove
and dispose of them when the box gets too full.
3. Schedule ‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’
Set aside a specific time each day to focus on any interruptive thoughts
or concerns that you have had. For example, you may schedule your
‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’ for 10 o’clock in the morning for 10
minutes. This is the time that you will spend focusing on any thoughts
that have attempted to prevent you from moving forward. What you
actually do during this time is entirely up to you. You may think about
different ways to address these concerns, or you may think about what
it is about these thoughts that is so powerful, or you may want to just
‘sit’ with the thoughts and not actually ‘do’ anything.
By the way, this ‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’ is the ONLY time of the
day that you will spend any time or energy focusing on these
bothersome thoughts. If a bothersome thought creeps in at any other
time of day, write down your concern on a ‘Bothersome Thoughts List’,
then very gently say to yourself, "I’m not going to think about that right
now. I’ll think about that at <fill in the time of day you have set aside>."
Then, continue doing whatever you were doing before you had the
interruptive thought. Often when you get to your scheduled
‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’ the concerning thought that you had
earlier is no longer a concern…
Scheduling a daily ‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’, allows you put time
aside to acknowledge the importance of your concerning thoughts,
but doesn’t allow these thought to derail your progress.
By using one or more of these methods to conquer your bothersome
thoughts, you allow your concerns to be "heard" and addressed without
draining your energy and enthusiasm as you move forward!
*************************************************************
What’s Next for You?
*************************************************************
Is there something that you really want to get done, but haven’t been
able to move past the bothersome thoughts swirling around in your
head? Write down the task that you’d love to get moving. Also, write
down what the outcome will look like…be sure to include as many
details and as many of your different senses as possible. Then, pick at
least one of the three suggestions listed above and apply it to your
situation. What happened? How did it feel to know that you can make
progress, without that annoying little voice in your head getting in your
way? We would love to hear how it went for you. Please send an e-
mail to mailto:Helen@BetterThanEverCoaching.com with a brief
description and I’ll include it in a future issue of ‘What Could Be Better’.
Please let me know if you’d like to remain anonymous.
*************************************************************
Resources
*************************************************************
-- Articles --
Creating a Positive Attitude to Achieve Positive Results by Mark Victor
Hansen
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Hansen1.html
How to get rid of inaction paralysis! by Caroline Jalango
http://www.selfgrowth.
com/artman2/publish/selfgen_articles/Jalango12_printer.htm
Negative vs. Positive. The ever-existing battle in your mind.
by Lynne Dean
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/LynneDean3.html
The Power of Thought by Roger Ellerton
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Ellerton3.html
-- Books --
Breaking the Pattern by Charles Stuart Platkin
Free Your Mind by Steven Pashko
Quiet Your Mind by John Selby
Stick With It by Greg Wingard
Note: Mention of any of the above resources does not
indicate endorsement.
*************************************************************
Making progress on all of the projects that you have on your plate is
great to work on with a coach. By establishing your goals, defining the
tasks with estimated completion dates and accountability, you’ll be
surprised at how much you can accomplish in a short timeframe! Why
not setup a complimentary session with me to find out how coaching
will help you make progress on your projects? Please contact me at
mailto:Helen@BetterThanEverCoaching.com to setup a
time to meet over the phone or in-person.
Thank you for subscribing to my newsletter. It is published
every month, except for a combined issue in November/December
and July/August. To cancel or change your subscription, please
refer to the link at the very bottom of this newsletter.
Do you know someone who would enjoy this newsletter? Please
send the entire issue intact and unaltered to them! Thank you!
To subscribe to this free newsletter, please send a blank e-mail
to mailto:Helen20-192607@autocontactor.com. When you receive
the confirmation e-mail, please follow the instructions to
complete your subscription. As a special Thank You for
subscribing, you will receive Three FREE Success Journal Secrets
to Creating a Better Life!
Your privacy is important to me. I do not give out or sell my
subscriber list to anyone.
Please send any questions, comments or insights to me at:
mailto:Helen@BetterThanEverCoaching.com or P.O. Box 391,
Brewster, MA 02631. Or you can give me a call toll-free at:
(888) 294-5779.
Be sure to visit my website at:
http://www.BetterThanEverCoaching.com for more information.
*************************************************************
Better Than Ever Coaching
Partnering with Professionals to
Confidently Navigate Change
*************************************************************
Copyright © 2007 Better Than Ever Coaching.
All rights reserved.
*************************************************************
What Could Be Better?
Written by:
Helen F. Kosinski, ACC, MBA - Professional Coach
May 2007: Volume 2, Issue 5 / ISSN # 1935-4827
*****************************************************
This Month: Conquering Bothersome Thoughts
- Feature Article
- What's Next for You?
- Resources
*****************************************************
Hi,
Can you believe that Memorial Day weekend is right around the
corner? I hope you have a great long weekend filled with laughter,
friends and, of course, a great cookout!
It’s hard to believe that it we’re almost at the middle of 2007…Wow! I
hope it’s been a fantastic year for you! And, you’ve been able to make
significant progress on all those "projects" that you have. Last
month, I talked about the FUN process to help get you started on those
difficult to start projects. This month, you’ll learn about some tools to
help diminish that "little voice in your head" that can sometimes really
be a roadblock to progress. I hope you find my suggestions helpful!
Have a Better Than Ever month!
All my best,
Helen
*************************************************************
Feature Article: Conquering Bothersome Thoughts
*************************************************************
Has this ever happened to you? You’re getting started on
something…maybe it’s writing a report, or creating your family’s
budget, or it’s creating a plan for your new project… and you get stuck!
You just can’t seem to make any progress at all! When this happens
have you noticed what that "little voice" in your head is telling you?
Maybe it’s saying things like:
 | "I'm never going to finish this report." or | |
| "Why am I wasting my time creating my family's budget? They | |
| won't stick to it anyway. But if I don't do this we're going to run out of money and then what will we do?" or | ||
| "This project is so big, I've never managed anything like it | |
| before. I can't do it. What's going to happen when it fails? Then everyone will know that I don't know how to manage big projects." |
thoughts and probably worse…especially at 2am in the morning.
These types of thoughts can really put the brakes on progress. What
can you do to get these bothersome thoughts out of your head so that
you can finally move forward on that next exciting thing? Here are a
few suggestions…
1. What’s worked?
Think about a time in your past that you had a similar situation…what
did you do to move forward? This may sound simple, but it can be very
helpful to recall what you did in the past to conquer these bothersome
thoughts. The main reason this is so helpful is that you have already
been successful using a particular method and if history repeats itself,
you’ll likely be successful this time around, too!
As you think about your previous successful experience, it’s beneficial
to use as many of your senses as you can. To facilitate this, here are
three questions that might help start the ball rolling:
| What did it FEEL like to overcome the bothersome thought(s)? | |
| Based on my past experience, how do I SEE myself succeeding | |
| this task? | ||
| What did someone SAY to me, or did I SAY to myself, that | |
| motivated me to move forward? |
2. Box them up.
Find a small box with a lid. Now, take a piece of paper and write down
one of your bothersome thoughts. Then fold the paper and put it in the
box. As you put the paper in the box, imagine that your bothersome
thought is being delegated to someone else and it is no longer your
responsibility. Continue to put each of your bothersome thoughts down
on paper, put them into the box and delegate the concern to someone
else.
You can also create an electronic ‘box’, instead of a physical box. Just
create a directory on your PC called ‘Box’. Then create a document and
type in one of the thoughts that has been holding you back. Save that
document and put it into the ‘Box’ directory…again, as you put this
document into the directory imagine that you’re delegating your
bothersome thought to someone else and it is no longer your
responsibility. Repeat this process for all of your bothersome
thoughts.
At a later date, you can go back and read through the pieces of paper or
documents, if you’d like. Often people that do this find that all of their
concerns were indeed taken care of for them! Or, you can just remove
and dispose of them when the box gets too full.
3. Schedule ‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’
Set aside a specific time each day to focus on any interruptive thoughts
or concerns that you have had. For example, you may schedule your
‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’ for 10 o’clock in the morning for 10
minutes. This is the time that you will spend focusing on any thoughts
that have attempted to prevent you from moving forward. What you
actually do during this time is entirely up to you. You may think about
different ways to address these concerns, or you may think about what
it is about these thoughts that is so powerful, or you may want to just
‘sit’ with the thoughts and not actually ‘do’ anything.
By the way, this ‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’ is the ONLY time of the
day that you will spend any time or energy focusing on these
bothersome thoughts. If a bothersome thought creeps in at any other
time of day, write down your concern on a ‘Bothersome Thoughts List’,
then very gently say to yourself, "I’m not going to think about that right
now. I’ll think about that at <fill in the time of day you have set aside>."
Then, continue doing whatever you were doing before you had the
interruptive thought. Often when you get to your scheduled
‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’ the concerning thought that you had
earlier is no longer a concern…
Scheduling a daily ‘Bothersome Thoughts Time’, allows you put time
aside to acknowledge the importance of your concerning thoughts,
but doesn’t allow these thought to derail your progress.
By using one or more of these methods to conquer your bothersome
thoughts, you allow your concerns to be "heard" and addressed without
draining your energy and enthusiasm as you move forward!
*************************************************************
What’s Next for You?
*************************************************************
Is there something that you really want to get done, but haven’t been
able to move past the bothersome thoughts swirling around in your
head? Write down the task that you’d love to get moving. Also, write
down what the outcome will look like…be sure to include as many
details and as many of your different senses as possible. Then, pick at
least one of the three suggestions listed above and apply it to your
situation. What happened? How did it feel to know that you can make
progress, without that annoying little voice in your head getting in your
way? We would love to hear how it went for you. Please send an e-
mail to mailto:Helen@BetterThanEverCoaching.com with a brief
description and I’ll include it in a future issue of ‘What Could Be Better’.
Please let me know if you’d like to remain anonymous.
*************************************************************
Resources
*************************************************************
-- Articles --
Creating a Positive Attitude to Achieve Positive Results by Mark Victor
Hansen
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Hansen1.html
How to get rid of inaction paralysis! by Caroline Jalango
http://www.selfgrowth.
com/artman2/publish/selfgen_articles/Jalango12_printer.htm
Negative vs. Positive. The ever-existing battle in your mind.
by Lynne Dean
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/LynneDean3.html
The Power of Thought by Roger Ellerton
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Ellerton3.html
-- Books --
Breaking the Pattern by Charles Stuart Platkin
Free Your Mind by Steven Pashko
Quiet Your Mind by John Selby
Stick With It by Greg Wingard
Note: Mention of any of the above resources does not
indicate endorsement.
*************************************************************
Making progress on all of the projects that you have on your plate is
great to work on with a coach. By establishing your goals, defining the
tasks with estimated completion dates and accountability, you’ll be
surprised at how much you can accomplish in a short timeframe! Why
not setup a complimentary session with me to find out how coaching
will help you make progress on your projects? Please contact me at
mailto:Helen@BetterThanEverCoaching.com to setup a
time to meet over the phone or in-person.
Thank you for subscribing to my newsletter. It is published
every month, except for a combined issue in November/December
and July/August. To cancel or change your subscription, please
refer to the link at the very bottom of this newsletter.
Do you know someone who would enjoy this newsletter? Please
send the entire issue intact and unaltered to them! Thank you!
To subscribe to this free newsletter, please send a blank e-mail
to mailto:Helen20-192607@autocontactor.com. When you receive
the confirmation e-mail, please follow the instructions to
complete your subscription. As a special Thank You for
subscribing, you will receive Three FREE Success Journal Secrets
to Creating a Better Life!
Your privacy is important to me. I do not give out or sell my
subscriber list to anyone.
Please send any questions, comments or insights to me at:
mailto:Helen@BetterThanEverCoaching.com or P.O. Box 391,
Brewster, MA 02631. Or you can give me a call toll-free at:
(888) 294-5779.
Be sure to visit my website at:
http://www.BetterThanEverCoaching.com for more information.
*************************************************************
Better Than Ever Coaching
Partnering with Professionals to
Confidently Navigate Change
*************************************************************
Copyright © 2007 Better Than Ever Coaching.
All rights reserved.
*************************************************************
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